Mitzvah MailFebruary 2013 The Month of Hearts and Flowers Last week was Valentine's Day and the topic of love was on many of our minds. I know, Val

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Mitzvah Mail

February 2013

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The Month of Hearts and Flowers

Last week was Valentine's Day and the topic of love was on many of our minds. I know, Valentine's Day has nothing at all to do with Bar and Bat Mitzvahs, but it did get me thinking about what it takes to turn a typical posed family picture into a keepsake photograph that portrays love. An image that moves you inside. That reminds you of how you felt at that very moment, not just how you looked. That tells your family's own personal love story.

In this issue of Mitzvah Mail, I talk about getting that "something special" shot, and share some of my favorite Love Moments. I also discuss what it takes to photograph your service and address some of the issues that may come up in Permission to Shoot. For a little Mitzvah Inspiration, read about an amazing online resource packed with information just for us. And this issue's Vendor Spotlight features the event planners I used for my own daughter's Bat Mitzvah.

Enjoy and feel free to forward to a friend!

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Love Moments

One of my favorite things about photographing B'nai Mitzvahs is getting to witness each family's own unique love story unfold throughout the day. I'm still amazed after all the mitzvahs I've photographed how easily I can be moved to tears (FYI - you crying dads get me every time)!

So what is that "something special" that brings your love story to life in pictures? For me, it's simple. I know for a fact that if I'm feeling something from you, it translates directly into my camera. Sometimes it just happens naturally, and other times all it takes are a few gentle prompts. From my own daughter's Bat Mitzvah, I know it's inevitable that those feelings of immense pride and love will surface at some point, and that's what I'm looking for the entire day.

It's hard to describe in words the feeling I get when I know I've captured one of THOSE moments. It's what made me fall in love with photography in the first place. Here are a few of my favorite B'nai Mitzvah Love Moments.

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Permission to Shoot

There are so many tender, unscripted things that occur during every Bar/Bat Mitzvah service, and each one helps to tell the story of your day. Thankfully, many of our Bay Area synagogues do allow photography during the service (or rehearsal) from a qualified professional. However, some still do not and for me as the photographer, it can be frustrating as the service is such a big part of your story.

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What you need to know

The two primary reasons photography is not allowed during the service:

1. It's considered "work" to take pictures on Shabbat (this is primarily the case in Conservative/Orthodox synagogues).
2. The clergy feels it's too disruptive to the service.

If your synagogue does not allow photography during the service or rehearsal (and you'd like to try and change that), here are a few facts you can share with your Rabbi and/or synagogue staff:

No loud clicks.
Professional photographers who use the latest digital equipment are no more disruptive to the service than a videographer. For example, I use a Canon 5dMkIII pro camera which has a virtually silent shooting mode - no loud shutter clicks here! If your synagogue allows videography, there's a great case for allowing photography as well.

No flash required.
Again, the newest cameras allow us to shoot quality images in the dimmest of lighting conditions with no flash.

Out of sight.
We primarily shoot on a tripod from a stationary position in the back of the synagogue. If allowed, we may come off the tripod to shoot the Torah processional, still from the back. Using professional long telephoto lenses allows us to shoot from a distance, yet still get those key closeup shots.

Sensitive to the service.
Professional photographers who are familiar with the nuances of a Bar/Bat Mitzvah service will instinctively know not to shoot during sensitive times (ex. Amidah - silent prayer, Mourner's Kaddish, etc...).

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My Two Cents

Each synagogue, even the ones that do allow photography during the service, has their own unique rules regarding photography, and professional photographers need to respect those rules. I do think it's worth a try to educate the ones that don't allow photography during the service, and I'm always happy to share information with your synagogue staff. Chances are, if they allow videography, they should be more open to photography by a professional. So check with your Rabbi/synagogue staff and make sure your photographer understands the rules of your particular synagogue. We all just want to capture the your day as completely as we can.

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Mitzvah Inspiration

Looking for a great online resource just for us? Here's your answer. MitzvahMarket.com.
MitzvahMarket.com is designed for Bar/Bat Mitzvah planning families and delivers clever, useful and entertaining ideas via a FREE weekly e-newsletter. You'll find TONS of ideas you've never dreamed of on this site.

Last year I had the opportunity to meet with the founder, Sheri Lapidus, in New York and was totally inspired! The team behind MitzvahMarket.com are professional working Moms who have all been through planning their own children’s B'nai Mitzvahs. They are not party planners, but instead pass along Mom-to-Mom advice to try and make planning your child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah more fun and less stressful.

They have over 1,200 ideas archived on the site and I know you will find it useful!
While most of the vendors featured are based on the East Coast, the site is packed with great ideas! Here's a link to the story they ran on the "Pretty in Pink" Bat Mitzvah I photographed.

Sign up to receive their free e-newsletter by visiting the homepage at MitzvahMarket.com and clicking on the Signup box in the upper right-hand corner.
Please be sure to tell them I sent you by placing my name, Cheryl Bigman in the “How did you hear about us” line when you register.

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Vendor Spotlight - Simcha Sisters

Planning an event like a Bar/Bat Mitzvah can quickly become a daunting task. I so admire my clients who do it all themselves! But if you're anything like me, you may not have time to do everything. That's where the Simcha Sisters come in.

Sisters Shana Goldberg and Tanya Shore are the perfect solution. As event planners specializing in Jewish lifecycle events, they can help you as much or as little as you need.

When planning my daughter's Bat Mitzvah this past April, I knew I needed help with the decor and the last-minute details that inevitably come up. I already knew our theme was ice hockey, but had no idea where to start in making it come to life. Shana and Tanya put together an "idea board" that really helped us visualize our theme. They also researched vendors for everything and obtained pricing for us ahead of time.

The last 2 weeks before your mitzvah are going to be crazy - just count on it! The more you can do ahead of time the better. But if you're a busy person, I can't tell you how much you'll love having an event planner like the Simcha Sisters. They handled all the last-minute details and made sure everything was taken care of in time for our Bat Mitzvah.

During the actual day of, I could just relax and enjoy being in the moment while Shana and Tanya worked behind the scenes making sure the day ran smoothly. Priceless!

For more information, contact the Simcha Sisters at:
info@simchasisters.com or 925.984.7024
Website: www.simchasisters.com

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Reminder to Book Early!

2013 has started off with a bang and the Bar/Bat Mitzvah season is well under way! I've loved traveling all over the SF Bay Area shooting mitzvahs and getting to work at so many of our beautiful synagogues and unique party venues. I can't thank you enough for the referrals of your friends and family.

Unfortunately, being busy has meant having to say "no" to families needing a photographer on a day I'm already booked. I can't tell you how much it breaks my heart to have to tell a family I'm not available, especially if I've already photographed their older child's mitzvah. PLEASE let me know as soon as you have your Bar/Bat Mitzvah date so we can lock it in. If you have friends you're thinking of referring, it's NEVER too early. I still have 2013 dates available, but just booked one in 2016!

Contact me at cheryl@cherylbigmanphoto.com or give me a call at 925.963.8744.
You can also refer people to my Website or Blog where they can reach me through the Contact page, or Facebook where they can "Like" the page to see my latest work and special offers.

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About Mitzvah Mail

I created this newsletter to provide all of us "Mitzvah-planning Mommas" (and Dads too) with a little inspiration and hopefully useful information to help us along the way. Between planning my own daughter's Bat Mitzvah last year, and being a B'nai Mitzvah photographer, I've accumulated all kinds of cool, helpful information and wanted to share with you.

Please feel free to email me with your comments and suggestions for future issues. Would love it if you'd share Mitzvah Mail with anyone you know who could use a little support in their planning process. Just forward this email and tell them to "subscribe" at the bottom of the page. Thanks for spreading the word!

Happy Planning!
Cheryl

To see previous issues of Mitzvah Mail, click on these links:

New Year's Issue - January 2013
Issue 5 - December 2012
Issue 4 - September 2012
Issue 3 - June 2012
Issue 2 - May 2012
Issue 1 - March 2012

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