Hey gorgeous, When you love the people that you love, do you love them fully or partially? Do you pick and choose? Do you ask them not to bring the

     

Hey gorgeous,

When you love the people that you love, do you love them fully or partially?

Do you pick and choose?

Do you ask them not to bring their anger or dysfunction out for coffee?

Do you tell them that you will only love them, if… Setting conditions for your love of them, and reminding them often that it is yours to take away, should they step out of line?

When you think about the people that you love, do you spend your hours agonizing how to rid yourself of that part of them? The inconvenient part? The messy part? The part that breaks your heart?

Why then, would that be the kind of love that you offer to yourself?

We tell ourselves…

I’ll only love you when you’re good.

I’ll only love you when you lose 10 lbs.

I’ll only love you when you get an A+.

I’ll only love the pretty part of you, the part that you trot out for parties and special occasions.

I’ll only love you when you are following all of my rules.

I’ll only love you if you keep it together – sealing up your messy parts and denying your peculiarities.

You are lonely, because you only allow part of yourself to be loved.

The love that we have, or don’t have, for ourselves defines how we permit other people to love us.

When we are picking and choosing – telling ourselves what we must do for love or how we must act – we are setting conditions on our lovability.

For today:

You are good.

You are lovable.

There is no enough.

You are lonely, because there is a part of you – wild and unruly and deeply gorgeous – that is fighting for a seat at the table.

When you love yourself, entirely, you permit others to love you, entirely.

The good, the bad, and the in-between.

Our best and worst parts of flip sides of the same coin. Until we welcome our darkest elements into our lives, carving out a cozy space for them in our hearts, we cannot access our deepest truth or beauty, either. They are one and the same.

I don’t know about you, but I’m after that deep truth. I’m after all the beauty that I have to offer. I am on the hunt for a life that allows me to feel really good – a life where I love myself and allow myself to be loved by those around me.

I want that for you too.

I was lonely for many years, because I only let people see the part of myself that was rehearsed and well lit. I only let them see the version of myself that I had perfected.

All the while, I was starving for something real. For real beauty. Real conversation. Real sadness. Unbridled laughter.

I was hungry to become all of myself, so that I could love myself and so that I could let you love me. The real me. All of me.

I was hungry to be witnessed for the incomplete, beautiful, messy, smart woman that I was. That I am.

It all begins with the love that we have for ourselves.

How will you welcome all of your parts to the table?

If you’re hungry to learn to love yourself fully, and to let a community of women get to know and learn to love the real you - the doors for Body Loving Homework Live open March 27th. There are 24 spots at the table. Perhaps one has your name on it? I hope so.

Love,
Mara

Who am I?

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My name is Mara Glatzel , and I coach and write for brave women who are looking to chase what lights them up, follow their inner wisdom, and embark on the gorgeous journey to creating deeply fulfilling + satisfying lives.

In creating this sacred space for women to thrive, I'm bringing a masters in clinical social work with a trauma specialization, my spot-on intuition, and years of mucking through the melodrama of my own life as I worked to move from an existence steeped in fear of and hatred towards myself, to a life of self-acceptance and love.

Read more about me here.

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